hello, my name is Queen Bitch
Do you ever get into a funk? I’m talking about a down and dirty, grimy, irritable mood where you’re just peeved about everything? I do. And truly, my funks suck for all involved.
I can’t pinpoint all of my triggers. But there certainly are things that almost always get my goat: question my diet, insult me (or, many times worse, a friend), get pissy with me for no reason… these are sure ways to unleash my inner bitch. And honest to God, I promise, you really don’t want to do that.
When I’m upset — whether it’s with you or because of some external factor — I’m on the emotional warpath. I try (I swear I do) to not take my frustrations out on the undeserving. But that’s difficult for me. Every single teeny tiny little thing that I am able to ignore under normal circumstances… they are all magnified by a factor of about a kajillian.
I was in a Mood (yes, capital M) yesterday. If you had the misfortune of accidentally speaking to me, my sincerest apologies. Sucks for you. I don’t mean to be a bitch. It’s just that, beyond saying “I am not capable of being a decent human being right now”, I don’t know how to deal with my extreme frustration.
So tell me, my friends, how do you deal? What are your anger management tactics (and don’t tell me ‘wooo saaah’)? What can I do to make it clear that I am not in conversation mode?
Not quite sure. I tend to realize that I’m on fire and then try to avoid everyone for the rest of the day. Seems to work 75% of the time.
Normally I just tell whoever wants to talk to me about how I don’t want to talk. If they cannot handle it, then I flip out at things they say or do. Sometimes I don’t even come online, because I want to avoid taking it out on someone, but in person…it’s a lot more difficult. :S
I ignore everyone, don’t talk more than need be and just plain get through the day. If at all, I do try and find maybe a ‘one of those things’ that might cheer me up a bit and thats about it. Bleh…time sorts it out.
I’m sure your friends understand Erin, you’ll know because they’ll talk to you again tomorrow
I act like I’m happy and perform a nice sing-and-dance routine complete with a collapsable top hat and attractive back-up dancers. Then I go backstage and force the tears and anger to stay bottled up. Before I’m content, another crowd slowly forms and once again, it’s showtime!
Well, at least for me it’s so difficult to avoid a conversation with a friend when I’m pissy, actually if I’m in a bad mood and a friend talk with me I tell him/her why I’m completly upset, if another friend starts talking I tell him/her again.
My nuisance just last till the same day’s night…. I can go and sleep if I am angry with someone.
When I’m truely in a nasty/cranky mood. I just make it clear up front. For people who see me in person it is usually clear from my face (my feelings are always reflected there, hence why I can’t play poker). If they don’t realize, I just give them the appropriate fair warning. On IRC I just change my nick slightly to indicate that mood, something like ELBunce|Cranky. If someone starts to irk me I just /IGNORE them. On jabber or similar mechanisms I set a Custom available message to warn the unwary.
In short, put up a virtual or literal sign that says “No open flames near powder keg” and endeavor not to say anything you might truely regret later.
I rarely get angry and lose my cool but when it happens, I either become a destructive dervish of destruction (yes, double the destructive powers) or I go for a long run and run myself into the ground and then sleep. Option number 2 usually makes the following day less awkward but who doesn’t like breaking stuff?